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Valentines Day Advice

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The two most important things in any relationship are: Communication and Keeping it Fresh.

Communication- It’s very important to talk about what you want, to be honest, and to be direct. Subtle hints and innuendo can be misunderstood or missed altogether. How many movies and TV shows involve the characters doing stupid things because they didn’t talk? And you scream at the screen: “Talk to each other!” Well, you need to talk to each other, too. Don’t assume your partner understands.

Keeping it Fresh- I don’t care how good the sex is in the start. You’ll get bored. Anyone would get bored. Even if you’re meant to be and you’re the perfect match. Any reasonable human gets bored. That’s why it’s crucial to try new things. It’s also very important to listen to your partner when they ask to try something new, and to make every effort to do it (within reason).

Valentines Day is the perfect excuse to talk about things you want to try, and do some experimentation. After all, going out on a day when every single couple is also trying to go out leads to long waits and poorly prepared meals. Why go out? Stay in, and celebrate with a candlelight conversation and then trying something new.

Remember to do your research. If you’re going to try butt stuff, make sure you know how to safely douche beforehand so you don’t end up getting pink eye or some nasty infection. If you’re going to try shibari, make sure you know how to do it without causing nerve damage. Whatever you want to try, read up -from reliable sources- to make sure you try it safely.

If you plan to role play to spice things up, remember to try masks, different clothes, and other props to help convince yourself. Any kinky person knows: Headspace is important. Do everything you can to get yourself into the right headspace. You’ll have a better time if you believe.

Happy Valentines Day my fellow kinky people!

Happy New Year! It’s 2026 — Let’s Talk Kinky Resolutions

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Happy New Year! It’s 2026, and with a fresh calendar comes a fresh opportunity to reflect, reset, and grow. New Year’s resolutions don’t have to be about productivity or perfection — they can also be about how we show up in our relationships, how we treat others, and how we understand ourselves.

If you’re someone who’s curious, imaginative, or interested in kink and alternative relationship dynamics, here are a few kink-positive New Year’s resolutions worth considering.

1. Resolve to Be More Open and Communicative

Being open-minded doesn’t mean saying yes to everything. It means listening without judgment.

People experience desire, curiosity, and connection in wildly different ways. When we approach those differences with curiosity instead of disgust or fear, we create safer spaces for honesty. Open-mindedness allows conversations to happen before misunderstandings turn into shame or silence.

You don’t have to like everything you hear — but giving ideas room to be expressed matters.

2. Make Consent Non-Negotiable

Consent isn’t just a checkbox. It’s an ongoing conversation.

Resolving to always seek clear, enthusiastic consent means respecting that people can change their minds, feel unsure, or say no without needing to justify themselves. Consent builds trust, and trust is what makes any relationship — kinky or not — feel safe and mutual.

A good rule for 2026: if it’s not a clear yes, it’s a no — and that’s okay.

3. Try New Things (Thoughtfully)

Growth doesn’t happen in our comfort zones.

Trying something new doesn’t mean pushing past your limits; it means being willing to explore curiosity safely and intentionally. Sometimes you discover something you love. Sometimes you learn something isn’t for you. Both outcomes are valuable.

You can’t know what resonates with you until imagination meets reality — and learning what you don’t like is just as important as learning what you do.

4. Respect Your Boundaries — Without Apology

Your boundaries are not obstacles. They’re information.

One of the most important resolutions you can make is to stop forcing yourself to be comfortable with things that genuinely aren’t right for you. Saying “this isn’t for me” doesn’t make you boring, close-minded, or difficult. It makes you honest.

Respecting your own boundaries teaches others how to respect others, too.

5. Let Go of Resentment

People are allowed to want different things.

In kink, as in life, frustration often comes from unmet expectations. Let 2026 be the year you stop resenting others for liking what you don’t — or for not liking what you do. Difference doesn’t mean rejection; it just means diversity.

The goal isn’t sameness. The goal is understanding.

Here’s to 2026

May this year bring better communication, stronger consent, kinder curiosity, and deeper self-knowledge. May you learn what excites you, what grounds you, and what you can happily leave behind.

Happy New Year — and here’s to growing, exploring, and respecting ourselves and each other.

Discovering Fetishes

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Recently I wrote a fetish series. For it, I did some extensive research into various fetishes that I had never really looked into before.

And of course, since then, I have been fantasizing about some of the things I researched.

I never thought much about furries before, other than to enjoy seeing them at fetish proms because I love the costumes. But, after looking into it, I guess I kind of want to hang out with a furry…

I mean, why not?


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Look how cute those costumes are? Don’t you at least a little bit want to try having sex with a fox? The anonymous nature of it, plus the weird disconnection from reality…

Anyway, I was just thinking about the old saying: “It’s only kinky the first time.”

Isn’t it funny how we all start out disgusted by things that we say are “too weird.” But then, after we look in to it, it actually starts to sound interesting.

Just a thought of the nature of kink and how preferences evolve over time.

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