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A Very Personal Update

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Passport, and money!

Passport, and money!

I might be writing this more for myself than for you. My thoughts are less ordered than they usually are, due to a lot of major life-changes that happened all at once. I need to straighten out my head.

First, I live in Portland Oregon now. It is a wonderful city and I really enjoy it. It also gives e a chance to be near someone I have been dating for more than 10 years, and I am really enjoying that. He’ll hate me for this- but I’m going to refer to him as “Mr. Pretty” because of a nickname from when we were much younger people.

He and I didn’t start out kinky. At first, it was just a very passionate relationship between two people who had everything in common, while having none of the same characteristics. We grew up in small towns only a few miles apart. We both moved to the same desert and lived through our teen years there. We always ran in the same circles, and we even got matching tattoos at one point. Of course, we are nothing alike in terms of personality. He’s shy, socially awkward, and more capable with machines than with relationships. I’m out-going, popular, and great at relationships.

We have loved each other our whole adult lives, and adding kink to things only made it more exciting. Having him close to me makes everything better, because moving to a new place and a new part of the country is a huge change. It is smoothed over a lot by having someone here to cuddle up to and love.

From a trip Mr. Pretty and I took for my birthday.

From a trip Mr. Pretty and I took for my birthday.

Second, I had to move away from my very favorite Pet. He and I are two of a kind with the same views on monogamy, sex in general, relationships, and everything else. We have a really great bond, in terms of things we have in common and basically the same personality (with a few tweaks here and there.)

I was very excited to spend 6 weeks in South Korea with him this summer, visiting Club Desire and going to Fetish Play Parties with our friends. I wish I could have stayed, but circumstances won’t allow us to even think about living together for another year. And that’s okay. He’s in my chat window every day, and I know that some connections are too deep to be broken by time and space. I look forward to our future adventures.

Love lanterns in Korea

Love lanterns in Korea

Third, I am living with the family of someone I dated 2 years ago when I was in Korea, and who I wrote about previously as Mr. Bond. Being here, in his old room, I think of him every day when I wake up and every night when I fall asleep. Our relationship wasn’t that long, and it was ages ago, But… some things really haunt you.

Our first date was more than a day long. We met at a bar, in a nice public setting. We talked for hours before moving to a quieter and move private hookah lounge, and then eventually to my house. Most of my first dates don’t end at my place-but the really good ones do!

I’ll never forget that feeling of instant connection and instant emotion. I’ll never forget how happy I was, or how devastated I was when he moved to Georgia right after my birthday two years ago. For letting me borrow his family, and for being such an intense moment in my life, I will forever be grateful to Mr. Bond. I think I’ll always be in love with him.

At the family's beach house in Seaside. I love living with them.

At the family’s beach house in Seaside. I love living with them.

And then there’s my ex. All of the boys above are people I wouldn’t describe as “exes” because I am still in love with them and we never broke up or fought. But my ex and I are a whole other kettle of fish. We broke up, and I slunk away to Asia with my tail between my legs. It really messed my world up for a little bit.

So he asks if we can go to dinner when I move back to the United States. And dinner turns into hanging out, which turns into a road trip up the entire West Coast. And it turns out he’s changed about as much as a person can. I will respect his privacy, but I must say that the whole “people don’t change” thing is bullshit. Some people change into a COMPLETELY different person, and Mr. Ex did that.

It used to be that I hung out with him because I got to hear about the latest in Science and Engineering from him and the other guys working at his lab. I am a science geek to the extreme and being around so many smart people was blissful. But Mr. Ex was an uptight person with about a million personal hangups. And now he’s a great guy. Some changes were big enough that I know we’ll never date again, but I think I made a friend this summer that I will have for the rest of my life, and I am happy about that.

There is nothing in the whole world like an American Road Trip...

There is nothing in the whole world like an American Road Trip…

Then of course, there were the girls. I got to see my Pretty Little Princess, to fuck several girls at Club Desire, and to have sex with a very sweet girl we’ll call Darling Nicky. I enjoyed the hell out of all the women who let me play with them this summer, but it did inspire me to write about how women are too self-conscious. I stand by that. Maybe my wording wasn’t perfect or I rambled too much in that post. But the point remains: women needs to learn not to seek validation in being skinny or having the perfect body. Sure, those things are nice, but it’s not all that matters.

Random amusing things I saw this summer...

Random amusing things I saw this summer…

So now I am settling in to a new life and a new job that will last at least a year. I am back in the Untied States for the time being, and I am enjoying speaking my native language and learning some new stuff.

This summer was too intense to really sum up in a single post. I should give shouts out to my brother in Korea and to all the people who helped me along the way with places to stay, company, and great parties. I added a few new stamps to my passport, tore apart the drive train on a car, and really just did a crazy amount of cool things that I may never get around to writing about. But the things I really want you all to take away from this is: Thank you! To all of you who love me and help make my life the awesome adventure that it is, I am so much more grateful than you will ever know. You guys make my life so wonderful, and I hope you all know how much I care.

Peace and love to you all.

Peace and love to you all.

Portland

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ferns

My summer was full of travel in the form of road trips and overseas flights. I saw cool places, had sex with awesome people, and all-in-all it was a great summer.

However, it’s time to settle down. It’s time to pick a place and stay for awhile. I’m pulling up a patch of the universe and calling it home. And that patch of the Universe is Portland, Oregon in the USA.

forest

I’ve only just arrived. I haven’t had time to go to a munch yet or check out one of the many sex clubs that Portland is meant to have. Hell, I have barely had the chance to hang my clothes up in my new closet!

If you are from Portland or you are living there now, please feel free to suggest cool places and cool things to do. I am all ears.

waterfall

After some very tropical weather in Korea and a terrible dry heat in the desert, I admit that I this 70 degree weather in Portland is all I can think about right now. It’s so fucking pretty outside that I can hardly stand it!

So my first adventures out of the house where to Oxbow Park and Eagle Creek, and various other forest trips.

But if you just give me a week or two to enjoy the amazing weather, I promise to get serious about meeting the folks in the kink scene here.

close-up-fern

I’ll get to the kink scene right after this next hiking trail…

On The Road Again

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Leaving Arizona

Leaving Arizona

 

I find myself in a situation where I will be doing a lot of traveling in the near future. I may go to Colorado, I may go to Georgia, and I will definitely be going to Seattle and Portland.

Because of this, I am not 100% positive that I’ll be able to write posts. I can’t be sure of my time/internet access while I am on the road. So I will do my best to keep up on the blog, but I may not post much between now and the middle of July.

I promise that once things settle down, I will write out all my exciting adventures! Take care and remember: Safe, sane, and consensual sex is the best!

A visit here and maybe I few other spots.

A visit here and maybe I few other spots.

 

Fetish Prom 2013 in Phoenix Arizona

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Prom 2013 CoverPhoto

Prom 2013 CoverPhoto

 

So I went to a Horns and Halos event over the weekend. It was Fetish Prom 2013. I have to say, it was a really killer party. One of my very favorite bands, Hardwire, played the prom. And the headliner was a band called Hanzel and Gretyl. I hadn’t heard of them before, but they were pretty good. There were performances by all kinds of cool people, like Defenz Mechanism. There was so much good stuff that it’s a little hard to describe it all. I guess that’s the best way to really describe a prom- it’s sensory overload of kink.

Defenz Mechanism

Defenz Mechanism

 

I loved the vendor section with so many whips and chains to look at. The Violet Wand demos amused me to no end, since I brought my favorite pet and he loves electricity. The venue was comfortable, though I prefer indoor events. Club 910 Live was not the best location ever, but it wasn’t bad. The crowd was full of beautiful people, and there were even suspensions by Steve Hayworth.

Girl in a cage

Girl in a cage

When people in other countries or even other scenes outside of Arizona ask me to describe a Fetish Prom as I know it, the best I can do is this:

Whatever your fetish is, you will get to see some of it at Prom. People in cages, people suspended by hooks, people being beaten, music, strippers, and a whole lot of amazing costumes and outfits. A Fetish Prom is a chance to check out all the aspects of the fetish community and see what you like. It’s also the Disneyland of kink, because you can try things. Pet got put in a cage, hit on stage, electrocuted, and many other things. He ran around like a kid in a candy store trying everything, which is exactly what Prom is for.

Beatings on the side stage

Beatings on the side stage

I have never seen anything like Arizona Fetish proms anywhere else. I have seen wonderful gathers of cool people, and been to great munches and dungeon parties and all kinds of things. There is a lot of great kink stuff out there in the world. But Prom is something different. It’s huge. It’s over-the-top, and it’s amazing. I won’t even get into the after party here. That’s a whole other story. For now, I just want to thank James Bound and all of the good guys at Horns and Halos for another great night of crazy, kinky fun!

dancing

 

Infected Mushroom at The Monarch Theater

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The Flier

The Flier

This past weekend I went to the event above at The Monarch Theater  The concert was great, and Infected Mushroom kicked ass.However, at the after party I noticed some things that really made me crazy and I want to go ahead and point out some big mistakes when playing at a dungeon party.

First: Never touch anyone without their consent. I don’t care if they are currently being fucked (as one girl was). That does not make them a slut, nor does it make them easy. They are not yours to touch. CONSENT is important.

Second: Someone that shouldn’t have even been at the party grabbed my riding crop and hit a girl he didn’t know. So unless you have permission, hands off other people’s toys! No, you can not “barrow it for a second” you enormous douche bag.

Third: Read the rules. To be fair, Devious Minds productions only had the rules for the club in ONE secluded corner and no one really gave a lecture before the play party started about behavior. Personally I think you don’t belong at a dungeon party unless you’ve looked into the rules for that sort of thing beforehand, but I also think Devious Minds could have done a MUCH BETTER job of making the rules available.

I understand that a party like this will always attract one or two assholes, but when someone is able to take their camera out and take a video in a closed play party without consent of the people involved, the security is not doing their job and the people involved are not doing their job. I had to call out several people on my own because no one who put the party together or who worked there was doing anything to stop all the bad behavior.

It was my first Devious Minds event. I am not in Arizona long, so I probably won’t end up at another Devious Minds event. I can’t judge a promotions company off of one event because that wouldn’t be fair. But, I think the after-hours play party could have done with a lot more supervision…

The Crowd Watching Infected Mushroom

The Crowd Watching Infected Mushroom

To The Desert I Go…

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This is the desert of Arizona.

This is the desert of Arizona.

So the scene in Arizona is wild. There is a lot of hook suspensions and small fetlife munches on a Tuesday night draw about 90 people. It’s a scene unlike any other I have seen.

The big thing I came here for is the Horns and Halos Fetish prom. I have been to fetish proms that were really awesome, but none as good as the ones in Arizona. I don’t know why that is, but these kids really know how to get some serious kink on, while drawing great bands and vendors as well.

The crowd cheering for Element a440 at a previous prom.

The crowd cheering for Element a440 at a previous prom.

There are usually strippers, stage shows, vendors, and all mannar of fun kinky things to do. A boy I met the other day told me he brought a paddle to the last Horns and Halos prom, and ended up with a line of girls waiting to be spanked. That’s the kind of stuff that happens at these proms.

Just a pretty girl on a stripper pole...

Just a pretty girl on a stripper pole…

When I was in Korea, I threw some small fetish proms that were fun, but barely broke 100 people. The Horns and Halos proms are so big that they rent an entire hotel for the after-hours party.

Side-stage kink/fetish show

Side-stage kink/fetish show

I’m really excited to be here for the next event. I’ll be promoting for Doctor Xtreme while I am there, and my Pet is even going to fly out. This is going to be SO much fun!

DIY BDSM

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The creator of this awesome rig

The creator of this awesome rig

So a friend of mine who goes by Hexavier in the scene created a very nice rig to do suspensions from. It sets up easily in a living room, and then stores easily as a few pipes under the couch. I thought it was really cool, so I wanted to write about it.

Here’s what it looks like all set up:

The rig put together

The rig put together

Because it’s made out of very strong pipes, it’s able to hold up to 8,000 lbs.  He states that the working load limit is 1,000 lbs.  I have actually watched him suspend two girls from it at the same time, and it didn’t even move. Its very solid.

So how do you create such a thing yourself? Well, it’s as easily as buying some pipes (go for the thick, strong metal), cutting them to the length you want, and fitting then with some end pieces that either slot or thread together.  His is made from 2 inch black pipe for the support on top and 1 inch black pipe for the legs.  The foot print when setup is 6′ x 6′ x 6′.  The exact dimensions and build could be retrieved from him on Fetlife.  Here’s what the parts look like before being snapped into place:

Note the rubber caps to protect carpet. Good idea!

Note the rubber caps to protect carpet. Good idea!

Again, I’m not likely to build my own suspension rig, since I’m not much of a rope person anyway. Still, I think it’s impressive as hell and Hexavier was great to have at play parties, where he did suspensions for the guests. So awesome!

If you’re into rope, you should totally try designing and building your own rig!

Going Away

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It was a great weekend

It was a great weekend

I know I said I would write a post every Monday. And usually, the words flow out of me like water pouring from the sky in a rain storm.

Not today though. Today I am saying goodbye.

For the record, Korea is wonderful and anyone who want to come here totally should. I have had ALL THE FUN in this amazing country!

And yet… it’s time to go.

So this week instead of a post, I just want to say thank you. To all the folks who helped me throw fetish proms, play parties, and set up amazing scenes; You have been incredible! I can not tell you how much I have loved hanging out with you and how grateful I am for my life having a chance to meet and mingle with your life.

I will miss you all.

Take care. Be safe. Keep in touch.

I’ll write my next post from Thailand.